I was asked to give some of my thoughts on how to have happier, healthier relationships with our partners in this Guardian piece and one of the things I talked about is how when we have resentments with each other, it comes up in the most domestic and seemingly small aspects of our lives. We need to pay attention to these because these can be wonderful clues that there is something that needs attention in the relationship. Often what happens is that because the resentment is expressing itself in something small, one person says – you’re over-reacting, why are you so upset or angry about this “small” thing. But what is actually happening is that there is something underneath the small thing that is finding a way to show itself. We can all do this – much easier to express stuff sideways or indirectly than risk the difficulty of an intimate or potentially difficult conversation but actually when we find a way to address these issues it can clear the air. Here is the link to the Guardian piece.